I have been giving a lot of thought lately as to how I can be more real with you, my reader. I think my deepest desire is to connect with you.
And I am failing at doing that.
I heard something recently from Glennon over at Momastery – “You can be perfect and admired or real and loved.”
I think this whole blog has been my feeble attempt to encourage others and thus be loved, but what I have put forth is “look how great this perfect stuff I make is.” You can’t relate to perfect, and neither can I. I cannot keep going deeper in my private life and have this public forum remain perfect.
If you don’t like imperfection, you can stop reading and unsubscribe right now.
If you read past that sentence – thank you for joining me on this journey into authenticity.
I have made a decision to be real.
Real with my triumphs, as well as real with my failures.
Real with how I talk to myself and affirm the good.
Real with how I still have old tapes and still need a helping hand.
Real starting now. Starting with that everyday photo taken of me (in an apron) with my Mother at dinner recently. Before now, this photo, and other less flattering ones, would have never seen the light of day. But it’s real life.
And in being real, I need you – my friends!
Glennon also said “Nothing hurts as much as not being known.”
Being perfect is lonely. It doesn’t allow me to connect with you. It only shows you how great I think I am and all you can see is how far you are from that – either better than me or worse than me.
From here forward, I will be honest. About it all. Struggles and victories. And I want this to be a place where you can find a friend in this messy thing called life as well.
If you hear me being anything less than authentic – call me out! Be my friend! Good friends lovingly help each other through perfectionism, as well as all the other stuff of life.
In the coming weeks, the banner at the top of the page will change, as will the logo. The purpose statement has already changed: Offering friendship and belonging to creatives so we can be nurtured and encouraged and create our best work ever.
Hint – it’s going to be less about finished projects and more about process. The process of life.
Life is colorful. Our thoughts, feelings and emotions are colorful. Emotions have colors: when we are sad we are blue, when envious, green, and when angry, red hot. Many moods, many colors. Life is about using the whole box of crayons – in community.
The fiber that holds all of life together is Love. We are woven together from the beginning by the Creator of love. Some fibers are thick, some thin. Some bumpy, some smooth. Life and loving others is like that – barely hanging on sometimes and other times joined at the hip. It’s not all a smooth ride – we need encouragement.
Creativity adds a certain texture to life. Real authentic life is messy, just as creativity is messy. You don’t see messes on Pinterest because it’s only the shiny sparkly side of life, not the real authentic side. I have found that things are far more interesting when they have texture than when they are plain and smooth. I’m stepping out of fear of sharing real stuff in hopes that the texture of real life makes my life more interesting and relatable to you. And we all have creativity.
Community, encouragement, creativity.
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Can you relate to this? Am I making any sense?
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