You’ve no doubt heard these critics before. They say things about how silly our ideas are, how we don’t know enough, can’t do it as good as ___, or that purchasing all those supplies was a waste of good money.
Those critical voices can bring on emotional pain and can prevent us from creating work at all.
So how do you silence those inner critics so you can move forward and create something amazing and real and you?
Here are 5 things I came up with:
1.Acknowledge the Critics
Last week I posted an open letter to you readers about my direction to be real and talk more about the creative process than the actual creations. All that real-ness opened me up to an inner critic free-for-all and I was completely frozen from any creative activity.
I believed them for a day or so.
2. No Decisions in the Fog
When we are in that space where the inner critic is the only voice we hear in our thoughts, make no decisions! Especially decisions that could affect the future. The fog and pain created in my thoughts completely engulfed me such that I considered completely shutting down the blog to avoid the awful feelings.
3. Talk to a Friend
That open letter I mentioned? Well, it went to some of my friends. One of them replied back that she was excited to walk the journey with me. Really? I’m leaving the outcome of this whole scary being real thing up to God. I don’t even know where it will lead – and she wants to go with me? Wow.
That encouragement was like balm to my soul and helped me not shut down the blog, rest, and keep doing the next right thing. Which is writing this post…
4. Identify the Critics by Name
As painful as it can be, shining light on those old negative critics will force us to a decision – are we going to stick with the comfortable and stuck or are we going to believe change is possible?
My critics sounded like this:
- What do you know? You will let people down.
- You can’t do it as well as ____.
- Everybody will realize you are crazy and will stop trusting you.
- You could be happy without all this loving and helping other people stuff.
And that last one was the one that caused me to hear the critic for the negative voices they are. The critics got cocky and started shouting stuff that was blatantly and obviously untrue.
Some people call this positive self-talk. Whatever the term, it is the true truth that you know about yourself, or that you really want to believe about yourself. Some that got me through this fog were
- I am enough.
- I have something to offer from my unique perspective.
- I have purpose and a desire to serve others
- My story matters and can be used to love and encourage others
There has to be a well-spring of positive to counter that internal negativity. Speak affirmations daily. See what good they do watering your soul!
What affirmation resonates with you the most today? Have you dealt with inner critics or critics in the world and on social media lately? Leave a comment and share your affirmation with us all!